Enablement in Marriage: I am divinely enabled to minister to my mate
God wills for us to be complete in Christ and dependent on His enabling provision to accomplish His good pleasure.
“We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy, always thanking the Father. He has enabled you to share in the inheritance that belongs to his people, who live in the light” (Col. 1:11–12 NLT).
Paul wants the Colossians to know that he prays regularly that God would impart his power to them, not for selfish aims but so that they can live for God in a worthy manner. . . . The purpose . . . of this God-given power is to provide the divine strength needed for the believer to attain Christian virtues, to persevere in the faith, to resist temptation and deceitful teachers, and so to know the joy of the Lord.1
As Paul prayed God would impart His power on the Colossians, we too should pray that God will impart power on our spouse, not for selfish aims but so that they can live for God in a worthy manner. Enabled by Christ, we both may live within the divine strength needed for the believer to attain Christian virtue, to persevere in the faith, to resist temptation and deceitful teachers, and so to know the joy of the Lord.
Overflowing with God’s Resources
Encountering the woman at the well, “Jesus answered her, ‘If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water’” (John 4:10 ESV). The “living water” Jesus offers is identified in John 7:37–39 as the Holy Spirit dwelling within believers.
“Jesus said to her, ‘Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life’” (John 4:13–14 ESV).
As a result of the Holy Spirit’s indwelling, a person’s deepest spiritual longing to know God personally will, amazingly, be satisfied forever.2 Complete in this knowledge, we are enabled to convey this good news to others like a well springing forth.
The church in its relationship with Christ is to be moving toward Christlikeness—maturity that ultimately looks like Christ. This can only be accomplished through the work of the Holy Spirit because it is only the Spirit that knows what Christ looks like. Reflectively, the marital relationship can only mature to represent a portrait of Christ and His relationship with the church as we allow the Holy Spirit to produce His fruit in our lives.
Our spouse cannot supply what is lacking because only God can supply our needs. But as we allow the Holy Spirit to live in and through us, God supplies all that is necessary. The goal of marriage is not to get what I want, but to be what God wants – a portrait of Christ’s relationship with the church.
❏ I believe God has divinely enabled me to minister to my spouse by . . .
1 The ESV Study Bible, ESV Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2008), Col. 1:11.
2 The ESV Study Bible, ESV Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2008), John 4:14.
(excerpts from Marriages that Minister by J. Kirk & Melanie D. Lewis)
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