Exposure to One Anothers

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Expectations: Be Like Christ

Exposure to One Anothers

[This continuing series of Marriages that Minister is currently exploring expectations within marriage.]


Marital expectations can quickly destroy a marriage. Both husband and wife come to the wedding altar with assumptions of what their “happily ever after” will look like. But the only expectations we may rightly hold are God’s expectations. Chapters 8 and 9 of Desperate Dependency elaborate on the sensitive issue of anger and the necessity of forgiveness that results from unmet expectations. Only when we die to our selfish nature may we experience abundant life with appropriate expectations.


For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live. (Rom. 8:13 NIV)


Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. (Gal. 5:24–25 NLT)


Throughout Scripture we find directions as to how Spirit-led followers should interact with one another. The multiplicity of “one another” passages teaches us how to live as Christ lived. In the coming weeks we will elaborate on a wide range of One Anothers to guide conduct within marriage.


Establish Identity: We are dead to self, but alive through Christ.


My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. (Gal. 2:20 NLT)


Because I choose to no longer be dominated by my old self, I may now live empowered by the Holy Spirit to assist my mate to be fully established in his/her identity. Together we exhibit a masterpiece marriage as an example of the One Anothers of Scripture.


Love One Another

Exposure to Christ’s truth, especially His command to love, dictates all One Anothers.


“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.” (John 13:34 NLT)


As Christians, we are to love as He loved. This obligation is never completed, just as Christ’s love is unending.


Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. (1 Pet. 4:8 ESV)


Teach One Another

While we are living and loving, we must also be teaching each other to walk as He walked. Only when we live with an established identity may we adequately instruct others to experience Christ personally.


Him we proclaim, warning everyone and teaching everyone with all wisdom, that we may present everyone mature in Christ. (Col. 1:28 ESV)


Greet One Another

An outward display of love demonstrates an acknowledgement of value. As those who are beloved by Christ living in unity, we are to “Greet each other with a sacred kiss.” (Rom. 16:16 NLTThe sacredness of a married couple’s kiss reinforces their identity forged upon a covenant of commitment and sealed through consummation.


All Christians are to live out the One Anothers prescribed in the Bible. Stay tuned for upcoming posts as we continue to make practical application of the One Anothers specifically to marriage.


Insight Journal

❏   How are you doing with each of these expectations?
Love each other
Meets expectationsExceeds expectationsImprovement needed
Teach each other
Meets expectationsExceeds expectationsImprovement needed
Greet each other
Meets expectationsExceeds expectationsImprovement needed



(excerpts from Marriages that Minister by J. Kirk & Melanie D. Lewis)

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