The Marriage Mystery: Communicating Unity

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The Marriage Mystery: Communicating Unity

I am one with my spouse because I am united with Christ.

[This continuing series of Marriages that Minister is currently exploring our marital identity.]


Paul continuously speaks of the mystery of Christ and His plan for His bride. Ephesians 5:32 reminds us that the mystery of Christ is directly related to the mystery of marriage. Like Paul, a messenger of the mystery of Christ, we should also consider how to be ambassadors of the mystery of Christ as evidenced in our marriage. God reveals His mystery through marriage to the watching world and even to the “rulers and authorities in the heavenly places.”


To me—less than the least of all the saints—this grace was given, to proclaim to the Gentiles the unfathomable riches of Christ and to enlighten everyone about God’s secret plan—a secret that has been hidden for ages in God who has created all things. The purpose of this enlightenment is that through the church the multifaceted wisdom of God should now be disclosed to the rulers and the authorities in the heavenly realms. This was according to the eternal purpose that he accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord, in whom we have boldness and confident access to God because of Christ’s faithfulness. (Eph. 3:8–12 NET)


Can you fathom that we have a responsibility to evidence the wisdom of God to the rulers and the authorities in the heavenly realms? When the rulers and authorities in the heavenly realms see your marriage, how do they identify with it? What characteristics do you display?


This salvation was something even the prophets wanted to know more about when they prophesied about this gracious salvation prepared for you. They wondered what time or situation the Spirit of Christ within them was talking about when he told them in advance about Christ’s suffering and his great glory afterward.
They were told that their messages were not for themselves, but for you. And now this Good News has been announced to you by those who preached in the power of the Holy Spirit sent from heaven. It is all so wonderful that even the angels are eagerly watching these things happen. (1 Pet. 1:10–12 NLT)


Because of our identification with Christ, we bear His image, conveying His love. A vibrant relationship with our spouse enhances the visualization of fulfilling unity.


Certainly, the Father answered the prayer of His Son, “Make them holy by your truth; teach them your word, which is truth” (John 17:17 NLT). Filled with the empowerment of His Word, we are divinely enabled to live in unity. As a result, His Word should direct our words.


Unfortunately, our communication habits often reveal the disunity in our marriage. Because talking is essential to unity, how can we bridge the gap? As Christ communicated with His Father through prayer, we too possess the privilege to talk with God in prayer.


“Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Heb. 4:16 NASB).


The benefits of His grace supply the help necessary to unite with our spouse. Therefore, as we talk with God in prayer, we may experience enlightened fellowship with our mate. The tri-union with Christ and our spouse reveals our identity as those who are privileged to be united with Christ.


Insight Journal

❏   I think my prayer life compares to my communication with my mate in these ways:



(excerpts from Marriages that Minister by J. Kirk & Melanie D. Lewis)

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